Category Archives: Bullying

Complementing the Campaign to Banish the Term “Bossy”

Banning of the word “bossy” as it is often used to describe women who take charge is a goal set by Sheryl Sandberg, author of Lean In and a worthy one.  If nothing else, attention to the term and its … Continue reading

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The Pros and Cons of Gossip

Sharing here a Harvard Business Review blog by Amy Gallo on gossip.  It’s one of those facts of life.  There are some useful comebacks here, too, for when you don’t want to be manipulated into being part of someone else’s … Continue reading

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When People Lie to You

How often do you watch ads where people are lying to each other?  Imagine how often our children see this.  And what of those politicians who talk a good game about leadership and integrity while lying?  Is that all just … Continue reading

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Being Less Sensitive to Slights

There as so many sources of information about ourselves that some days can feel like a battle against incoming arrows of insult.  In some workplaces and schools, putting others down is just part of the culture. This can become overwhelming … Continue reading

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Rush Limbaugh’s Verbal Camouflage “Apology” Not An Apology At All

What is a sincere apology?  We’ve all received them.  We’ve all given them.  The real ones are sincere in word and expression.  When “I’m sorry” is accompanied by a defensive speech, it is not an apology.  Tagging on those words … Continue reading

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When to Forgive and Forget

That’s the subject of a blog I posted today on Huffington Post.  It pertains to presidential candidates, but there are a few lessons and reminders in it for all of us.  When someone is running for President of the United … Continue reading

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The Compliment-Slap Trap

One of the more difficult comeback challenges occurs when people embed an insult in an otherwise seemingly pleasant conversation. It’s more common in cultures where directness is socially discouraged. You’re speaking with someone who appears to be pleased to see … Continue reading

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The Cost of Meanness

“It’s nothing personal; it’s just business” is something most of us have heard at work. It reflects the way degeneracy has crept into organizations.  It’s evidence of the mean streak I wrote about today at Huffington Post.  And we don’t … Continue reading

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So Many Liars, So Little Time

I hate to be the one to say it but there are too many liars out there.  It comes so easily to so many and is celebrated so long as it leads to a win.  I’ve been writing about increasing … Continue reading

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When Hateful Communication Prevails

If we accept outrageous lies and hateful attacks as just the way things are, then that’s how they’ll continue to be.  Whether you’re a Democrat or Republican or somewhere in between, respect shown to hateful media personalities eliciting fear and … Continue reading

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