Words are weak vehicles of meaning. We often speak before considering this. So, when others label us, we often neglect to respond with a word we consider more accurate. Look at this list below. Notice how two words can describe the same behaviors, but in each case one has a more positive connotation than the other. The next time someone labels you, or labels someone else for that matter, consider offering a substitute. This is a superb comeback strategy that works far better than defensiveness.
You get the idea. Should someone say, “You’re so intense.” Why not reply with: “I am passionate about things that really matter like this project.” Of course, if you are intense or even passionate too often, it wouldn’t hurt to consider being less predictable — as discussed in earlier blogs. When you’re predictable, people can manage you to their liking.
Chances are you’ll be labeled today or tomorrow. Try this comeback exercise. If you become skillful, you’ll be redirecting many conversations away from unnecessary confrontations.
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